Over time, this behavior can lead to stress, resentment, burnout, or a diminished sense of self. Addressing people pleasing involves recognizing and valuing your own needs, practicing healthy boundary setting, and building self worth that isn’t dependent on external approval, allowing for more balanced and authentic relationships.
People Pleasing is a pattern of behavior where someone consistently prioritizes others’ needs, desires, or approval over their own. It often stems from a fear of rejection, conflict, or disappointing others, and can develop from early life experiences or learned coping strategies. People who struggle with people pleasing may find it difficult to say no, set boundaries, or advocate for themselves, and may constantly seek validation or reassurance from others.
Common Symptoms of People Pleasing
- ✓Difficulty saying no to requests, even when overwhelmed
- ✓Fear of disappointing or upsetting others
- ✓Seeking constant approval or validation
- ✓Putting others’ needs before your own consistently
- ✓Feeling guilty or anxious when asserting yourself
- ✓Avoiding conflict at all costs
- ✓Overcommitting or taking on too much to please others
- ✓Suppressing personal opinions or desires
- ✓Low self esteem tied to others’ reactions
- ✓Feeling resentful, exhausted, or burned out from prioritizing others
Therapy Approaches for People Pleasing
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
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Learn more about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)Sensorimotor Therapy
Learn more about Sensorimotor TherapyDialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT)
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