Thoughts
Worrying about disappointing others, second-guessing yourself, or believing your needs matter less
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People Pleasing
Over time, this behaviour can lead to stress, resentment, burnout, or a diminished sense of self
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Understanding People Pleasing
Making Space for Your Own Needs
People pleasing is not a diagnosis; it is a pattern in which someone repeatedly prioritizes other people’s needs or approval over their own. It may develop as a way of avoiding rejection, conflict, or disappointment. Over time, it can make it difficult to say no, set boundaries, express preferences, or recognize your own needs.
Common Symptoms of People Pleasing
- Difficulty saying no to requests, even when overwhelmed
- Fear of disappointing or upsetting others
- Seeking constant approval or validation
- Putting others’ needs before your own consistently
- Feeling guilty or anxious when asserting yourself
- Avoiding conflict at all costs
- Overcommitting or taking on too much to please others
How People Pleasing Can Show Up
Emotions
Anxiety, guilt, resentment, shame, or fear of conflict
Body
Muscle tension, fatigue, headaches, stomach discomfort, or feeling on alert around others
Behaviour
Overcommitting, apologizing often, avoiding disagreement, or saying yes when you want to say no
Relationships
Unequal boundaries, difficulty expressing needs, or feeling responsible for others’ reactions
Therapy Approaches for People Pleasing
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Change your thoughts, shift your feelings, and reclaim your life
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Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Find inner calm by bringing your inner parts into harmony
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Deepening intimacy through emotional awareness
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Sensorimotor Therapy
Gently noticing body sensations, movement, and protective responses to process trauma and build a greater sense of safety and choice
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